24 So David hid in the field, and when the New Moon festival came, the king sat down to eat. 25 He sat in his customary place by the wall, opposite Jonathan, [a] and Abner sat next to Saul, but David's place was empty. 26 Saul said nothing that day, for he thought, "Something must have happened to David to make him ceremonially unclean—surely he is unclean." 1 Samuel 20:24-26
Isn't that typical, Saul thought nothing about himself being "unclean". He thought David must have done or touched something that made him unclean to attend the festival. Saul didn't stop to think that his murderous thoughts would have been worse. Hypocrites are always more anxious to see the flaws in others before themselves.
27 But the next day, the second day of the month, David's place was empty again. Then Saul said to his son Jonathan, "Why hasn't the son of Jesse come to the meal, either yesterday or today?"
28 Jonathan answered, "David earnestly asked me for permission to go to Bethlehem. 29 He said, 'Let me go, because our family is observing a sacrifice in the town and my brother has ordered me to be there. If I have found favor in your eyes, let me get away to see my brothers.' That is why he has not come to the king's table."
30 Saul's anger flared up at Jonathan and he said to him, "You son of a perverse and rebellious woman! Don't I know that you have sided with the son of Jesse to your own shame and to the shame of the mother who bore you? 31 As long as the son of Jesse lives on this earth, neither you nor your kingdom will be established. Now send and bring him to me, for he must die!" 1 Samuel 20:27-31
Here we go again, Saul blaming someone else, his wife! Pretty typical though, think about how many times husbands won't take responsibility for their kid's actions, and blame it on their wives, or vice a versa. Be honest, I've done it, maybe not to that extent, but I've done it.
Think about this, when words are spoken in anger they often reveal your fears and your heart. Saul's fear of losing the kingdom is very evident; his heart toward his wife, well, what do you think?
Maybe we all could use a reminder:
"My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires…If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless." James 1:19-20, 26
Don't be typical!
Practice looking at yourself first and not being hypocritical; practice taking responsibility and not blaming someone else; and practice listening and reigning in your tongue!